Leave Your Sexual Guilt at the Door
By greg. Filed in Anal, Couple, Erogenous Zones, Fantasy, Masturbation, Mind Set, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual Confidence |
In your sexual relationship with your lover, do you ever feel guilty? Do you stop yourself from doing or suggesting something new because someone else may feel there is something wrong with it? You need to stop worrying about what your lover, or others, think and leave your guilt at the door.
Guilt is a big obstacle to many people sexually. You have been brought up to keep sex private and to never mention it in casual conversation. In fact, for most people, it is even difficult to talk about sex in the privacy of the bedroom and even during the act of sex itself.
To be truly open and honest with your lover, you need to express your feelings about everything in your relationship and especially sex. Encourage each other to talk openly about your sexual experiences and fantasies. Fantasy can play a powerful role in your sexual exploration and satisfaction and it does not have to always be something you keep to yourself.
By opening up to your lover about your desires, you may find that they have the same ones or others that may enhance your own. You will never know unless you talk about it. If they do not like your ideas because they feel they are a bit too kinky or raunchy, ask what they like and what they fantasize about. Talking about the fantasies alone, can spark a strong sexual urge in many people.
And guilt is not limited to sexual activities or fantasies with your lover. It can also be an obstacle in masturbation. The stigma on masturbation for both men and women has been around forever. If you really want to become more sexual, however, you have to look past the stigma and learn how to satisfy yourself so that you know what really matters to your sexually. And as you age, your needs and desires change, so you need to be in tune with your own mind and physiology so that you can keep track.
For many people, they feel they are losing their desire with age. The problem is not always a lack of libido, it is simple the lack of understand of the sexual self. Dramatic shifts can occur in your sexual needs and if you assume that they same old things will work then you will get frustrated with your lack of response. Guilt sets in again. You assume that there is something wrong with you and that you may feel guilty for not having the hot sexual relationship you once had.
This is again a time to open up to your partner and let them know that the old activities no longer have the same effect on your. Let them know that you want to expand your sexual horizon and test out new ideas. This new exploration may be a relief for your lover as well. They may have been feeling the same way and just didn’t know how to deal with the changes.
Leave your sexual guild at the door and open up to your lover. They may surprise you with something they have been wanting to try for a long time. Unless, you take this chance to improve your sex life, you may never find what you are looking for.
Tags: Couple, Fantasy, Masturbation, Orgasm, Relationship, Sex, Sexual Confidence
