Trigger Your Lover to Orgasm on Command
By greg. Filed in Dirty Talk, Erogenous Zones, Foreplay, Mind Set, Nipples, Orgasm, Sexual Confidence |
The ability to orgasm is mostly a result of being in a frame of mind that allows you to be relaxed and in the moment. You can also create a orgasmic response if you create a trigger that causes you to jump to that frame of mind. If you master this concept, you will be able to get your lover to orgasm on command.
Your mind is an amazing thing. Unfortunately, it can also make if very difficult to achieve orgasm. The first priority of your mind is to protect you, and therefore, the ability to get into a relaxed state and let go is counter to the mind’s mandate. Your mind wants you to be on guard and so it can take a long time to become sufficiently aroused to achieve a pleasurable orgasm. We say “pleasurable” because a simple orgasm can often be achieved with little effort, but leaves you unfulfilled. We want you to achieve great orgasms.
If your lover can achieve orgasm at all, then you can use mind triggers to speed their response and get them to virtually orgasm on command.
The technique requires you to pay close attention to your lover as they approach orgasm and provide a different sensation that will stick in their mind, both consciously and subconsciously, just before they come. There are two ways to achieve this.
The first approach uses the sensation of touch. As your lover nears orgasm, provide a very specific touch to a part of the body that is not currently being stimulated. For example, stay away from your lover’s nipples while you excite them and as they reach their peak, begin gently pinching and rolling them until they have finished their orgasm. Besides intensifying the orgasm, the fact that you provided the extra stimulation only at the point orgasm creates a connection between the mind and the orgasm. Other examples might include playing with their anus, perineum, ear lobes, etc.
The second approach uses the sensation of sound. As your lovers nears orgasm, begin moaning to show how much you are enjoying the experience. This will help them relax more completely, knowing there is nothing to worry about from your side. This gives your lover a greater sense of sexual confidence. Again, what you have done is create a connection between the mind and the orgasm. Other examples could be to repeat a specific meaningful code word, to talk dirty, or to say their name.
Each time you take your lover to orgasm, apply these specific sensations, being sure to apply the same technique each time. The repetition during a single lovemaking session and from session to session, will deepen the mind/orgasm connection to the point where the connection becomes burned into the subconscious. Once this occurs, you will then be able to create the orgasmic response whenever you want, simply by using these new “triggers.”
Be careful not to change your technique too often. Too many techniques with limited repetition will make it difficult to set the trigger reliably. Experiment with different techniques to find one or two that work well, then use them until they are set.
Finally, when multiple triggers are in place, set off both the touch and sound triggers as well as two or more of each, all at the same time, and the pleasure will be multiplied to create mind-blowing orgasms for your lover.
Tags: Dirty Talk, Erogenous Zones, Mind Trigger, Nipples, Orgasm, Talk Dirty
