Keep the Happiness Alive
By greg. Filed in Confidence, Couple, Mind Set, Relationship, Sex, Sexual Confidence |
Do you know what truly happy couples have that other don’t? Do you know why some couples seem so connected easily when other can’t seem to communicate at all. Do you want to know what keeps a lover tied to you more than anything? The one thing that makes all the difference in the world is your attitude or mental state of mind.
Your ability to control your own mind is evident in everything that you do. When you hold positive thoughts, you have a positive aura and your physiology shows confidence. The people around you pick up on these “vibes”, and they are attracted to you. Maybe not sexually or romantically, but they feel a pull to be with you.
When you dwell on negative thoughts, others can see it in your face, your posture and hear it in your voice and the words you use. This is why they say that people will make a judgement about you within a few short minutes, or even seconds, the first time they meet you. They immediately know if you are someone they would like to spend time with.
This same psychology is present in your romantic and sexual relationships. When you are happy and you display this happiness, it is easier for your lover to feel happy. This can happen subconsciously, so even though they may be a happy person in general, if you are in the dumps, it will negatively affect them. The oppostie is also true. When you are happy, a negative person with tend to come up a bit in order to match your state.
Since we are talking a lot about subconscious here, it may seem that you have no control over it. This is untrue. If you want to improve your relationships you must keep tabs on what you are thinking and how you see the world.
Do you have a tendency to speak negatively about other people or objects or events in your life? Or do you tend to see the good side to things? Make it a habit to see what is good about your life and do not dwell on the negatives. This isn’t to say that you won’t have negative thoughts at all. What we are saying is that when you do have negative thoughts, that you immediately recognize them and change your thinking.
Let’s look at an example. You just finished making love to your partner and it wasn’t the greatest event in your life. Do you think, “Oh, that was boring.” Or, do you think, “That felt great, I bet it can get even better next time!” Which thought pattern do you think is healthier?
Especially when it comes to your lover, you have to keep a positive mindset. If you constantly think about the negative things, that is what you will expect. If you start to expect all your lovemaking to be boring, you will either begin doing whatever it takes to reduce the frequency of love making, or you will begin to resent your partner. This is why so many relationships become stale and sex falls off the radar screen. Each partner in the relationship becomes less and less interested in being with the other because they just don’t feel good with them anymore.
Dwelling in negativity and your relationships will dwindle or be destroyed. Keep a positive, healthy mental attitude about everything in your life and your relationships will grow and blossom.
Tags: Confidence, Couple, Happiness, Mind Set, Relationship, Sexual Confidence
